i saw this quote on a show how many people really do this?

爱一个人就是要为她铺一道平平坦坦的路,而不是成为她的累赘。

how very true.... but more often than not it becomes a burden. If both are able to do for the other then it wouldn't be considered selfish rite where only one party does it. Equal and fair. 被爱好还是爱人好？